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One week after our wedding, my husband and I had our first big, heated argument. We were both devastated—the idea that we wouldn’t agree on everything was shocking. Eighteen years later, I’m happy to say that we’ve learned to negotiate our differences.

In my work as a psychotherapist, I see many newlyweds who are frustrated and disappointed. They often share common misconceptions about marriage.

When most people think of a legacy, such negative connotations as pain and fear might not be the first thoughts that come to mind. But psychotherapist and author Joan Rubin-Deutsch will explain how such emotions and feelings are passed down through generations when that legacy is domestic violence.

"Joan Rubin-Deutsch really understands the power of those bits of childhood programming that distort our lives in such serious ways, and can be dangerously influential when we are in transition. Then, just when we need to be especially clear about what is really true about us and what isn't, those old voices woo us away from our own realities and undermine our natural power. What Joan has to say is well worth attending to."

"I loved this book. Joan Rubin-Deutsch has made the complicated topic of psychological motivation understandable and useable. Joan's program of identifying and changing personal contracts works to promote emotional growth and happiness. You will connect with the thinking of a master clinician who has figured out how to teach us all about what it takes to live a happy and satisfying life."